I had a client whose two main values in life were Comfort and Safety. He reviewed them with me after gaining a lot of weight, being tired and run down all the time. He was not happy and wanted a change. In reviewing his values he realized these values were giving him permission to eat what ever comfort food he wanted and to take little risks in his life. He was on survival mode. This was his comfort and safety for years. After reexamining his values he realized he was uncomfortable and wanted to live more fully. He changed his two top values to 1. uncomfortable – in a healthy way. He was already uncomfortable in his body but not in a good way. He started eating right and exercising. This made him uncomfortable but it gave him more of the energy and vitality he was looking for. The second value he embraced was 2. confidence. He allowed himself to embrace the talents he has and own them. He felt more confident to speak and live his truth in the world. He started this earlier this year and has lost 30 lbs and feels better about being himself in the world.
I encourage you to look through this list of 100 values and find the top 3 values you want to focus on and live them. Let me know how it goes.
With kind regards,
Stuart
- ACCEPTANCE To be accepted as I am.
- ACCOUNTABILITY To hold yourself and others answerable to a code of ethics created from your values.
- ACHIEVEMENT To be accomplished, A result gained by effort.
- ADAPTABILITY To be able to adjust to new conditions.
- ADVENTURE To have new and exciting experiences.
- AMBITION To strive for an achievement or distinction.
- ART To express yourself creatively in mediums such as painting, sculpture, music, drama or dance.
- ASSERTIVE To be confident without being aggressive.
- ATTRACTIVENESS To be pleasing to the senses.
- AUTHORITY To have the power to give orders and make decisions.
- BRAVERY To act courageously in the midst of fear.
- CARING To display kindness or concern for others.
- COMFORT To be physically at ease and free from pain.
- COMMUNITY To have a feeling of fellowship and commitment with
others.
- COMPASSION To feel and act on concern for others.
- COMPETITION To be energized by a sense of rivalry, a drive to be the best.
- COMPLEXITY To have a life full of variety and change.
- CONFIDENCE To feel confident and self assured in your abilities
- CONGRUENCE To be able to communicate externally to others the
same thoughts and feelings you feel internally.
- CONTINUOS LEARNING To always be learning something new.
- CONTRIBUTION To make a lasting gift or donation.
- Control/Order/Discipline To control people or things to maintain discipline and order.
- COURAGE To do what is right in the mist of fear.
- CREATIVITY To create new and original ideas and products.
- CURIOUSITY To desire and learn about anything.
- DEPENDABILITY To be reliable and trustworthy.
- DISCIPLINE To be consistent in your actions.
- ECOLOGY To live in harmony with the environment.
- ECONOMIC SUCCESS To achieve impressive financial results in business.
- Education/Certification To complete a formal course or program that offers a
degree or certification.
- ETHICS To live with moral principles that govern your behavior.
- FAMILY To be dedicated and involved with your family.
- FANTASY/PLAY To experience your self-worth through playing out
fantasy games or experiences in your life.
- FINANCIAL STABILITY To manage money confidently.
- FITNESS To be physically fit and strong.
- FOOD/SHELTER To have enough nourishment and comfortable housing
To be safe from the elements.
- FORGIVENESS To let go of a hurt and anger.
- Friendship/belonging To have close, supportive friends who you spend time
with regularly.
- FUN To do what brings amusement or enjoyment.
- GENEROSITY To give unconditionally what I have to others.
- GENUINENESS To act in a manner true to who I am.
- HAPPINESS To be content and joyful of your life.
- HARD WORKER To have a strong work ethic.
- HEALTH To feel good physically and mentally.
- HELPFULNESS To be able to do something for someone that they can
not do for themselves.
- HOPE To maintain a positive and optimistic outlook.
- HUMILITY To be modest and unassuming.
- HUMOR To see the funny side of myself and the world.
- INDEPENDENCE To think and act for yourself without being subject to
authority.
- INFLUENCE To be a compelling force for change.
- INNER PEACE To experience a calm mind and personal peace.
- INTIMACY To share my innermost experiences with others.
- JUSTICE to promote fair and equal treatment for all.
- KINDNESS To be of charity and compassion.
- KNOWLEDGE To live a life full of information gained through
experience or association.
- LAWS/RULES To live life by the rules or by set laws.
- LEADERSHIP To be a person who guides and directs.
- LEISURE To take time to relax and enjoy.
- LOYALTY To be faithful to commitments or obligations.
- LOVE To give and receive strong admiration and affection for
another.
- LOVED To be admired and shown kindness by those close to
Me.
- MASTERY To have a comprehensive knowledge or skill in a subject
or accomplishment.
- MEANINGFUL WORK To be doing work that has significance, purpose, or
value.
- MINDFULNESS To be attentive and thoughtful in the present moment.
- MODERATION To avoid excesses and find a middle ground.
- MONOGAMY To have one sexual committed relationship at a time.
- MORALS To have a clear belief of what is right and wrong.
- NURTURANCE To take care of and nourish self and others.
- OBEDIENCE/DUTY To willingly carry out an order or command.
- OPTIMISM To be hopeful and have confidence about the future.
- OPEN MINDEDNESS To be willing to consider new ideas: unprejudiced.
- PASSION To have deep feelings for ideas, activities, or people,
- PATIENCE To be able to withstand annoyance, misfortune, or pain,
without complaint.
- PEACE To have a state of tranquility or serenity.
- PERSEVERANCE To have steady consistent course of action in life.
- PLEASURE To live a life of enjoyment and amusement.
- POSITIVE ATTITUDE To focus on positive outcomes in any given situation.
- PRODUCTIVITY To be efficient in completing goals.
- PUNCTUALITY To be on time.
- RECOGNITION To be recognized in the world.
- RELIABLE To consistently do what you said you would do.
- RESOURCEFUL To find solutions to problems.
- RESPECT To give worth, importance, and value to your life.
- RESPONSIBILITY To be accountable for something within your power,
control, or management.
- ROLE MODEL To have success that is emulated by others.
- Safety/Survival To avoid personal injury, danger, or loss, and do
what is needed to protect yourself and or others.
- SELF-CONTROL To be in control of your emotions and desires.
- SEXUALITY To have an active and satisfying sex life
- SIMPLICITY To live life simply, with minimal needs
- SOBRIETY To abstain from a drug or destructive behavior.
- SOLITUDE To have time alone.
- SPIRITUALITY To put attention to matters of your spirit and or soul.
- STABILITY To have a life that is predictable and consistent.
- STRENGTH To be physically and emotionally strong.
- TRUSTWORTHINESS To be honest and dependable.
- Unity/Diversity/multiculturalism
To value and appreciate groups with diversity including:
cultures, organizations, societies, and ecosystems.
- USEFUL To be of help to others.
- Uncomfortable (healthy) To push your comfort zone. Striving to be better.
- WEALTH To have an abundance of money.
- WORLD PEACE To promote and support world peace.
