Here is a blog post for all of you introverts. I am one of them and have been asked by many other introverts over the years, “How do you talk to someone at a party or while you are out and about?” Here are some suggestions. Enjoy! Stuart

Here are some tips for starting a conversation with someone you don’t know:

– Make eye contact and smile. A friendly facial expression can make someone more open to conversing. Say hello or give a simple greeting to acknowledge them.

– Comment on the situation or environment. For example, if you’re at an event, mention something about it. If you’re in a class or workplace, talk about the class/job. This gives you something in common to discuss.

– Give a sincere compliment. Avoid anything too personal or that could be misconstrued. Compliment something like their outfit, hairstyle, or a skill you’ve noticed. This breaks the ice in a pleasant way.

– Ask an open-ended question. This invites them to give a substantive response and keeps the conversation flowing naturally. Ask about their connection to the place you’re in, what they think of it, etc.

– Introduce yourself. After a brief introductory exchange, share your name and be ready to shake hands or exchange other greetings. This moves things to a friendly acquaintance level.

– Find common ground. As the conversation continues, look for shared interests, experiences, backgrounds etc. Discussing things you have in common helps build rapport.

– Be a good listener. Make eye contact, smile, nod, and avoid interrupting them if they’re telling a story or opinion. This makes them feel heard and comfortable conversing with you.

– One technique that can be helpful is to have 3 topics you can talk about if there is a lull in the conversation. Avoid heavy topics like religion, politics, money but rather fun social topics like music, the arts, funny you tube videos, podcasts, a home project you are working on.

The key is to be friendly, open, and considerate. This will make a positive first impression and set the tone for a pleasant conversation.